Self-Respect Effectiveness: Keeping Respect for Yourself.
The best way to remember these skills is to remember the word FAST.
(be) Fair: Be fair to yourself and to the other person. Remember to validate your own feelings and wishes, as well as the other person's.
(no) Apologies: Don't over apologize. No apologizing for being alive or for making a request at all. No apologies for having an opinion, for disagreeing. No looking ashamed, with eyes and head down or body slumped. No invalidating the valid.
Stick to Values: Stick to YOUR OWN values. Don't sell out your own values or integrity for reasons that aren't VERY important. Be clear on what you believe is the moral or valued way of thinking and acting, and "stick to your guns".
(be) Truthful: Don't lie. Don't act helpless when you are not. Don't exaggerate or make up excuses.